Well happy Monday to all….Thanks for sticking around during my vacation. I’m back now, well rested and ready to make #bosslady moves this week.
I returned home to a messy house. But it was expected leaving two teenagers, 19 and 16 home alone. I hadn’t unpacked before I immediately started cleaning and picking up the mess they had made. i was mid shoe wrangle, when my husband like person came in and said, “they made this mess, let them help you clean it…..LIGHT BULB MOMENT. It has always been my “job” to keep the house clean, even after my hospital stay. I was in charge of the house being kept tidy and organized no matter who made the mess. I thought about that for a few minutes before I came to realize he was right. These weren’t my shoes in the living room floor, I didn’t eat from the bowl on the TV stand, why was I clearing them away. I called both my son’s to clear away their mess and within a few minutes my living room was neat again. With all my self love and self care research and practices, it had never dawned on me that I may need help.
Exercise, healthy eating, vacations and good music are all positive ways to care for yourself, but what about every day life. Simply having time during the day to do things you enjoy or to do nothing, can improve you self care. And having your family’s help is a great place to start.
I often need help in different areas of my life but because of my independent personality, the personality that landed me in the hospital, I rarely ask for help…with much of anything. I am a member of a business group on Facebook, the group is there for members to ask questions from others entrepreneurs with more experience, yet I have never asked the group for help or direction. I, unfortunately, go through the trials of learning the hard way, and it doesn’t have to be that way if I asked for help.
Do you see where I’m going with this. It’s OK to ask for help from others, we can’t do it all and we shouldn’t try to. People are willing to help all we need to do it ask.
Part of taking care of yourself is accepting that we cant do everything, all the time, and for everyone. You may need help in the everyday things like house work or running errands, or, like myself, may need help on a more personal level. What ever the case, it’s ok to ask and accept help from others.
Take care of yourself. Ask for help.