As a writer, blogger and special educator, I am often critiqued by somebody about something. Most recently I was bashed for using my southern accent in my book, 3rd Grade is AUsome. My response to this critic was simple. I write about what I know and what I am. I AM SOUTHERN, born and breed, and I speak with a southern accent.
Children are critiqued daily. I hear it a lot in the school hallways as the students switch classes. Friends jokingly ribbing another for his outfit, or grades or what happened in class. Sometimes adults may even do so without being aware of it. When my children come home I try to provide a safe haven for their ears and brains by using kind and uplifting words when we discuss their school day. Don’t get me wrong, my words aren’t sappy or pacifying, but when they, or their friends, come home they don’t have to respond to “why did you wear that shirt”, or “why is your backpack like that” and never will they have to answer “why did you say y’all instead of you all!!” Be a cheerleader not a critic!! #BeAwesome
PS…..3rd Grade is AUsome is now available at any of these digital stores: Barnes&Noble (nook), Kobo, 24symbols, Page Foundry, Scribbd, Tolino and Apple iBooks.
My youngest son is becoming an athlete. Unlike my first and second born, he was never into sports. My guess would be because he was always being taken to sit through his older brothers’ practices. He has successful talents in his own right; one being taking and scoring an 18 on the ACT college entrance exam at age 13, but now sports are become a part of him too. Two years ago he joined an AAU basketball team. At that time, simply dribbling down the court was a task he couldn’t master. But he kept with it despite me opening the door to allow him to walk away from the team. My baby boy continued to go to every practice and every game. I could see that he wanted to be good at basketball, so instead of allowing him to quit, I started encouraging and cheering for him.
Last night, two school years later, I watched him play on his school’s eighth grade “A” team. Not only play but play well, not only dribble but is point guard, the guy who dribbles all the way down the court. Each game, I attend every game, I see him playing better and better. Although he is already a good student, during basketball season, I’ve noticed that he gives his grades and class work a good deal more attention.
I look back now and wonder what would have happened if I had kept the door open and allowed him to give up. #keepDRIBBLING #BeAwesome
Are the words you use with your child building their self esteem? I love the quote, “promote what you love instead of voicing what you hate”. Of course I don’t know who the original author of that is but it says a lot in a few words. I have always spoken positive into my children, even on days when their actions said otherwise. I sometimes had to take the pause in order to find those positive words, but I did. Psychology 101 (ok, not exactly), says that if a person hears something for so long they start to become/believe it. Let our children hear words of encouragement from us as parents. We are their first and most important teachers. Teach them to speak words of encouragement to others. Positive words bring positive actions. #BeTheir#1FAN #BeAwesome
Tomorrow, The Parent’s Path will resume its scheduled “Blog about it Tuesday” posts. I want to give a gracious welcome to our new followers and invite you all to join us on FaceBook for more encouraging advice and opinions for parents on the path to raising successful children. Until tomorrow….as always #BeAwesome
Does your home have a plan B. If things were out of the ordinary, would your children know what to do. Could they catch the school bus or are they comfortable with riding with someone else to school if you couldn’t take them? What about lunches, can your kids prepare their own lunches, what about dinner? Could your children entertain themselves for a while if there was adult visitors in your home. Even younger children should be able to fend for themselves for a few hours if their parent are busy, sick or simply tired. But best practice is to not wait until the Family plan B is needed,but to put it in place now. My advice is to teach your children before its needed what they can and need to do in case their parents are “out of pocket” or cant tend to them at that appointed time. #BeAwesome #PlanB
I remember, four years ago, taking my oldest son to vote for the first time, it was a proud moment for me. This year I took my youngest along even though he is not old enough to vote yet. I wanted him to know the importance of this right. I voted early and there wasn’t a long line, but even if there were I wouldn’t have mind. The right to vote is ours. Exercise, share and explain the importance of that right with your children. #BeAwesome #GoVote
My brother and I use to go to a weeded area beside my parents house to pick dew berries when we were children. He would always walk ahead to knock down any hanging limbs or vines that may hit or scratch me. I would make sure to step where he stepped as to not step on thorns or worse, snakes. I only picked the berries after he cleared the weeds out of the way. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a cleared path as we raise our children? My first son was raised on trial and error, and with a lot of advice from older mothers, so i can say they cleared the weeds from my path. That is my goal with The Parents Path; to help clear the way with advice, ideas and suggestions that may make raising successful children easier. Please share your thoughts as well. What each of us experience and share may encourage another parent along the way. #ClearApath #BeAwesome
I walked into the living room yesterday and noticed my youngest son watching a cartoon that had several cuss words in it. I did a double take as I grabbed the remote to changed it. He didn’t say a word, yet I felt the need to explain my actions. “I don’t want you watching shows with that sort of language.” Later that night I was having a phone discussion with another adult and lo and behold, I used a couple of cuss words. To my dismay, who was standing in the kitchen listening to every word, my son. Did he hear me when I loudly told him, this sort of language was unacceptable, or did he hear me louder when I used the same kind of words.
#BeCarefulGrownUpsWhatYouSay (sung to the tune of “Be careful little eyes”)
“Hugs and kisses aren’t only good for your children’s heart, they are also good for their heads”–Dr Tony Evans.
Its been scientifically proven that a loving touch helps us all feel better, be it a hug, a kiss, a pat on the back or a gentle nudge; but do we need science to tell us that? Not really, but it kind of cool that it does.
This study, at Washington University, found that children who are loved on, held, hugged and kissed, are able to learn quicker, remember better and respond to stress more naturally.
I bet you didn’t know that kissing on your kid on their way out to school was making them smarter, now did you. The next time my 13year old puts his hand up for a fist bump when I try to kiss him, I’m going to tell him all about this study..#BeAwesome