bell hooks

Author and social activist bell hooks on how to love yourself:

“One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am.

It is silly, isn’t it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim “You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself” made clear sense. And I add, “Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.”

Source: All About Love: New Visions

I had to use this quote from one of my favorite people on this planet. She passed away last week and I seriously felt like I knew her personally. Her selfless acts to speak up and out will never be forgotten, by me as I’m sure for many others.

My way was paved by her and so many others, I am forever grateful.

Rest easy bell hooks💜

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Self Care During the Holiday Season

The excitement and stress of the holiday season can affect everyone, but for people who own and operate small businesses, the stress can be even more monumental.

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But, how do small business owners prepare themselves for the busy shopping season?

Prepare, Prepare and Prepare

Get your business prepared long before the holidays start. Most small business owners agree that preparing before the holiday season actually starts helps to alleviate stress in the business but personally as well. Let’s face it, stress in your business, is personal stress, especially when you are operating as all departments in your business.

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Something to look forward to

One other way small business owners say that they prepare, for personal self care, is that they plan something to look forward to after the busy holiday season.

Planning a few personal days away from work, to spend with family and friends. “Even just staying home and sleeping in”, says one owner,” is enough to look forward to” in order to make it through the excitement and hustle of the season. Another small business owner admits to planning a vacation, to look forward to. “This vacation plan gives me a mental boost to stay the course”.

I, personally, have planned to take a few days to enjoy the spa after the holidays, just to refocus and recharge.

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Enjoying the now

With the reality of knowing that small businesses took, and are still enduring, a big financial hit, during the pandemic, quite a few owners tell me that they are just enjoying the excitement and positivity of the now. As people return to pre covid ways, the spending is more in an upward swing then in the past two years. “Just being able to see that we may be in the black, is selfcare enough for me” states one small business owner.

As a small business owner, what are you doing to take care of yourself personally? Do you participate in any of the ways above or is there something else you do to take care of you, during the excitement of this season?

Share your thoughts.

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4 Ways Business Owners Practice Self-Care.


Books | Time

Most business owners admit that reading, even business related books, is the number 0ne way the wind down from a days work. According to the business owners we spoke with, Atomic Habits by James Clear is high on their list of favorite books. Other books on their list are below:

2. Will, by Will Smith

3. Becoming by Michelle Obama


Working Out Before Bed: Is It Good or Bad for Sleep?

According to our list of business owners, exercising is next as a favorite thing to do to practice self care. Getting a full workout, at the gym is number one, followed by jogging and yoga.

Movies and TV

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Watching movies and tv is number three on our list of ways business owners practice self care. Binge watching shows, and the latest movies is “a great way to forget about work for a while and relax”, is how one business owner explained number three to us.


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Rounding out at number four, is spending time with family and friends. Although being with family was mentioned in every other number on the list, over all being with friends and family made it on our particular list. Business owners, like the rest of us, are most relaxed with their loved ones.

There you have it. Four ways those who own businesses, practice self care.

Listed are only a few ways, make self care part of your work day by remembering yourself. Things will get busy, and at some point maybe even frustrating, but remember “it’s ok to put yourself first in your own life”, even if you own a business.

Thank you, to all of the small business owners who participated in our survey.

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Last week was a busy week, as me, and my team, get ready for our first small business networking event.

Isn’t this invitation beautiful?

I’ve been putting last minute touches on everything, and making sure everything is in order so we can enjoy the time together…but most importantly “Do Business”.

Running a business is exciting but can also be exhausting. So please remember that you are your small business, you are the face, you are the logo and the brand, and if you don’t look and feel well, it will show up in your business.

I was speaking with a financial advisor, in NYC, last Friday, and with the time difference, it was almost 5 my time, I was ready to shut the business me down and get some rest. As he continued to talk I waited until he paused to tell him…we would have to continue our conversation next week.

We have to know when to call it quits for the day. If you work an 8-5, at 5 you go home. Do the same with your business, even if you work from home.


Cheers to the small business owners who take time to take care of themselves, so they can take care of business. I AM PROUD OF YOU 💜

As we bloom in other areas of our lives, REST!

…until next time….#bossLady out.

#selfCare #selfLove #tutor #motivation #smallBusiness #owner

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Starting the new!

How do business owners practice self care? Find out how our next featured small business owners takes good care of themselves.

#smallBusiness #owner #selfCare #tutor #business #squad #featured #loveU #december #new

November 30

We made it!! Thirty days of gratitude! As December comes in we will evolve into so much more! I’m so glad to have you all here by my side!


….Stay tuned!

Until December…

#bossladyOUT #self #care #love #boss #business #squad #tutor #blogger #blooming

No normal November.

What’s next after the gratitude journal post? Will BossladyBLOOMS go back to it’s normal self care and self love post and images? Well just like the name says….BLOOM and we are doing just that! And I’m so excited. With the new year, comes new and interesting things as my business life grows and evolves so will so much of my world.

God has put me on a path to help others. To use my knowledge and skills to help elevate the next person who may need it. My plan is to follow HIS guidance and fulfill that purpose. When you pray for something be ready when it lands in your lap. I’m READY! I’m ready to grow, bloom, morph and help others along the way. You coming with! Great! Buckle up! Your going to love this new journey 💜

Today I’m grateful for when things are better than normal. When things I have no control over, work out in my favor. I’m grateful for answered prayers.

Stay tuned for a even better blooming experience.

Catch a glimpse of the behind the scenes work here….

#new #better #blog #business #selfCare #selfLove #small #business #owners #TheBusinessSquad


So im not sure why this month is moving so fast…but as I continue my post of gratitude, I will move forward as well. Today I am grateful for calmness. There has been so much new, exciting and busyness in my life, that I forget to enjoy the calmness.

As I move closer to the life I envision, I will always stop to enjoy the calm.

What are you grateful for? Share your thoughts, your comments and what you are grateful for.

until next time ..

#bossLadyOUT #calm #life #business #rest #loveYou

November twenty-two terrific tips💜

Screenshot_20190725-200559I love when I find things that I agree with to share with my BLOOMers…

Are you ready to put yourself first in your own life?

The results will be remarkable.

#newYou  #selfCare #newBetter #follow #encourage #selfishInAGoodWay

#bossLady Out #growth #learn #bloom #grateful

November twenty-two terrific tips💜

Screenshot_20190725-200559I love when I find things that I agree with to share with my BLOOMers…

Are you ready to put yourself first in your own life?

The results will be remarkable.

#newYou  #selfCare #newBetter #follow #encourage #selfishInAGoodWay

#bossLady Out #growth #learn #bloom #grateful

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